self.

Psychology lesson today, and it took a small quiz to reveal this: So i'm of a higher of level of interdependence, than all others around.

For the benefit of all, interdependence, in social terms, refer to one taking cues of the group feelings and behaviour, before deciding on own response. That is a contrast from independence, in which own feelings take priority above looking at the group feelings.

In short, others over self. With a significantly higher figure from the "balanced" others, as shown from results yielded from the quiz.


Based on this, the curious me prompted a discussion with Jamie, which enlighted and concluded several issues that have been, sort of, bothering me.


So now it makes sense. Myself has lost the unique-ness of 'self', in name of harmony. Giving way, doesnt seems to be the way.

& possibly, a reason why people like me are always being missed out on, because there are nothing special attractive about it. Bland, in short.

This illustrates perfectly: a FIAT, although not that reliable as rivals, but still are desirable because it looks like nothing else; a BMW, although pricey, but still sells like hot cakes 'cos it has brilliant engineering and makes great noise. On other hand, a Toyota is very reliable, solid value, does nothing wrong, but is not desirable, simply because it doesnt stand out. It's bland.

Me, perhaps, is like the one that had lost the unique-selling point. So how can you get noticed in the first place when there's nothing attractive?



The ultimate target is, to make the Real yourSelf stands out, while accepting other 'selves. Harmony is not by changing yourself to themselves/other-self..


Great, now I know why. But to achieve, is still a long way to go.


Still learning. True to the title.

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